Tuesday, November 8

Tough Decision

For anyone that knows me, you know I am a giver – almost to a fault. I am at a point now where I do not know what to do because my giving nature is at odds with my future plan.
I want to be a foster parent. I have wanted this for years. I want to adopt from foster care – further down the line when I am stable, when I have had some education on childhood development.
Boyfriend will prevent me from doing this – it’s not that he doesn’t want me to, but his record will not allow me to. He has a past he is recovering from. It is something I have known about as long as we have been together, but I never put the pieces together and realized it will hold ME back.
I feel the same about him as I have always felt. I just know that his past (a mistake, even he will admit, and a stupid one) will keep us from getting full custody of Sugarbutt. It will make finding housing more difficult than it could be. It will be a fight I fight, we fight. (He has 2 felonies on his record from when he was on all sorts of drugs. He has cleaned up his act.)
I don’t know what to do or think. I don’t want to lose him over this, but at the same time those kids need homes.
Does anyone have the answer?
With Love Always,


  1. Oh. Wow. I guess eventually, one reaches a crossroads of sorts. Is this a never ever situation? No possibility of a pardon or anything like that?

  2. I really don't know. I know he will be attempting to get his gun rights back here in a few years, maybe it can be expunged?I really don't know. I don't even know if I am strong enough to be a foster parent anyway, but having that option taken away is hard.

  3. It totally depends on your State's foster process. Sometimes a felony can be overlooked, or overridden, depending on how much time has passed, and good behavior, etc. Something to look into for sure. Do you know anyone who is a social worker in foster care?

    Samething goes for custody of SB.

  4. I don't know any foster care social workers. Need to get on fixing that, it seems.