Yes, Steve Jobs has died. I am not as sad as a large portion of our population. He was also adopted. This does not amaze me as it does much of the population. I don’t know why this would make any difference any more than, oh, I don’t know, what his favorite flavor of popsicle was. It just does not correlate in my mind. Steve Jobs has, however, become the face of the adoption vs. abortion conversation. This is a conversation that, in my mind, is just BS.
Yes, adoption and abortion are both possible reactions when faced with an unplanned pregnancy. So is raising your child. I have yet to see an article about how the world would have been different if Steve’s birth family had raised him. This kind of upsets me. How is this option suddenly unimportant?
Then there is the whole adoption vs. abortion thing. I don’t even know how this is a logical conversation. I have never met a birthmother who said ‘well, yes, I thought seriously about abortion but decided, instead, to go through with the pregnancy and heartache’. They are different reactions from different mindsets. Yes, Jobs could have been an abortion. Look in the mirror, though, and so could you have been. I don’t see any serious articles about ‘what if Hitler had been an abortion’ or “What if Mother Theresa had been an abortion’. I would venture the chances of either of those were just as great as Jobs.
I can’t explain why this bothers me as much as it does. Monkey had no chance of being an abortion. I don’t know any bmoms who did not abort just to place. Generally, when one chooses not to abort, they raise that child. Abortion is, in part, about preventing one from going through a pregnancy. Placing a child? That requires one to be pregnant. Adoption, inherently, requires planning for the future of a child. Abortion is sort of the opposite. Planning for a child (embryo, whatever) to have no future.
Can anyone articulate this better than I am, or am I making a fight out of nothing?
With Love Always